I am from the mid-west farm life
From the smells of homemade bread and fresh-cooked garden meals
I am from the quiet, peaceable home
I am from the bright colors of marigolds
The ones mom would plant every year
I am from the many roads trips to Antonio, Canada
From my big sister Nancy
I am from the late night summer dips in the pool
To the bare-feet races around the house
From the endless supply of entertainment from my cats and dogs
I am from keeping things in
Because that’s just way things were
I am from the perfect attendance of church
I’m from the northern part of Indiana
From the tall green grass and the beautiful blue skies
I am Patricia Sue Wenger. On October 21 of 1963, I was born to Norman and Mariam Wenger. I had quite a few siblings; I was one of seven; we grew up in a little farm house in the northern parts of Indiana. I have very many memories from growing up on the farm. Memories of going swimming after a long day of working hard. Memories of us siblings playing sports. But those years have gone and passed. I now live in Pennsylvania on this farm I call home with my husband and my seven kids.
I remember back in my early twenties, I was still living in Indiana. I had this friend; her name was Parla. Parla and I were roommates at Bible school a few years back, and became great friends because of it. She lived in Pennsylvania; I would come up and visit her often. But I remember one of the times I came down; it wasn’t for Parla’s sake, really. I came down because she, with the help of our dear friends Aden and Wilma, decided to set me up on a blind date with one of their good friends. At the time Parla and Wilma shared an apartment, so when I came up to visit, I would stay with them. So we were waiting in their apartment for Aden and Nate, but in our waiting, some old friends decided to come and visit Wilma. They came unexpected. We didn’t want to be rude and so we waited there until our unexpected guests left. To stay away from any awkward questions and any other conversation about it, Nate and I pretended to know each other. But there was no formal introduction till the guest had left. Eventually, our quest left; so we headed to place called CheChe; it was the place to go back before Chijis, Texas roadhouse and all the other restaurants were ever invented. Still to this day Nate and I joke about that fact that we didn’t need their help to get together because we got along so well and were so comfortable with each other that we didn’t need any help with starting conversation.
It was over a year when Nate finally decided that it was about time that we would get married. It was a normal evening; I was over at Nate’s house helping him milk. I tried to help Nate milk often because there normally wasn’t anyone to help. By this time, both Nate’s father and brother had passed away due to cancer, and his mom, in her old age, was often not available. After Nate and I were done milking, we went inside to fix up some supper. While we were making supper, Nate leaned over and mentioned, “You know, I wouldn’t mind reading to you my life story.” So after supper, we sat there and I listened to him as he shared his story with me. It was quite a few pages long, but the end drew near, and as Nate got to his conclusion, and said, “Patricia, if you say yes, my whole life would be changed”. We were engaged for eight months before we were officially married.
I then moved from Indiana to Pennsylvania. Like I had mentioned before, by this time, Nate’s father and younger brother had already passed away, so instead of us starting our little family in a small little apartment like young married couples do, we moved here into this farm house. Nate’s mother had moved out into a little apartment so we could take care of the farm. The first little while after we married -it wasn’t hard, but it wasn’t easy either, one of things I remember from when I first moved down here was not knowing the roads very well. During this stage of our life, I remember us looking back and thinking of it as us just playing house. Nate and I, who were just married, living in this big farm house; everything we did–we did together. We woke up together. We milked together. We ate together. I would help Nate with whatever he needed help with on the farm.
I remember back when Nate and I were the youth group leaders, we wanted to take the youth group to this seminar which was a decent while away from here. The only problem was that we would be gone during the time that the cows had to be milked. So instead of not going, we managed to rearrange the whole milking schedule. We came back from the seminar, slept for a couple of hours, and then at three o’clock in the morning we got up to milk the cows. The only time we weren’t together was when I would go to work. I worked as a nurse at Brandywine Hospital. Another memory that I have would be our first Christmas dinner here at our house. Aden and Wilma were here, along with Nate’s sister Mim, her husband Luke, and their three kids: Benji, Chris, and Danielle. We were all gathered around the table. The table was stretched out as far as it could go, and it was covered with more food than we thought it could hold; I say that because in the middle of our Christmas supper the table collapsed in half onto our laps. Needless to say, that night ended in many laughs and in many good memories that would create the annual holiday tradition that will live on for generations.
One winter, Nate and I decided to go visit my family back in Indiana. I flew out. Nate decided that he would drive out later. As Nate was driving, it stared to snow; he had a fear of getting stuck in the snow. After a long drive down, He finally came to our driveway, but as he was driving up the drive–he got stuck. He said that he was thankful for getting stuck there instead of anywhere else.
After the first three years of it only being Nate and I in this farm house, we were blessed with a beautiful little girl; we named her Abigail Grace.
I chose this time of my life to write about because it was one of my favorites. I could have chosen some time in my childhood, but growing up I was very quiet, very shy and so I don’t remember very good stories from that part of my life. And I chose not to do my high school years because that was a rather hard event in my life. I chose this time because I feel as if it brought the best of me. This time of my life, like I said before, is one of my favorites. // This is a Biography of Patricia Stoltzfus. Trish is a person that I admire a lot; she has a heart of compassion, and cares for the needs around her.//